tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7195616894993495285.post1641757288059137350..comments2024-02-16T18:19:13.539-08:00Comments on Ramblings From Yet Another Stranger on the Bus: In Sugarhouse ~ Inspired by Feelings that Kass's Blog Stirred Up: Chapter IILeslie Morganhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15702472429383639709noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7195616894993495285.post-79762659490494557672009-11-25T07:27:04.305-08:002009-11-25T07:27:04.305-08:00Wow, Kass, that is really good imagery. Thank you ...Wow, Kass, that is really good imagery. Thank you for saying it in just that way. I love words, and "wicker-basket-whisked-away" just made me sit back hard in my seat. Ooooo . . If you keep reading, you will learn that the "hell in a handbasket" statement was just the first in a series of startlers. I tend to put forth a certain image that makes people wonder if I'd say shit if I had a mouthful of it. And then I let fly some statement. It's a pattern.Leslie Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15702472429383639709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7195616894993495285.post-10596962942151744542009-11-25T07:15:21.050-08:002009-11-25T07:15:21.050-08:00I love that you said the 'hell in a handbasket...I love that you said the 'hell in a handbasket' response. It brings to mind images of your delightful friend being wicker-basket-whisked away and a new Moses-in-the-reeds basket being snatched from the river, taken into your lives, full of Gary's troubles. How precocious you were to make this realization.Kasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05233330248952156754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7195616894993495285.post-40626083577359578302009-11-25T05:42:40.438-08:002009-11-25T05:42:40.438-08:00Kass, your girls are way more flamboyant than mine...Kass, your girls are way more flamboyant than mine - even if measured only by their names! I think you're dead on about us needing those friends. I know I was a child in need. And it got much worse over time. After Gary was born, my Grandpa asked me where Carrie was. You've probably already concluded I was a child who did nothing to attract any negative attention. But there at Sunday dinner, I said, quite flippantly, "Oh, she went to hell in a handbasket." Dead silence. Shock. I wasn't even taken to task for it because it was so startling.<br /><br />rammitep - Yes, I caught your take on it and I could go that direction, too. I can be as base as anyone else. But when you put down the gauntlet, I had to rise to the occasion by being very creative. I wonder if it would be a side dish or dessert? And I don't care for Thai food.Leslie Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15702472429383639709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7195616894993495285.post-1531798161902741642009-11-25T05:18:23.453-08:002009-11-25T05:18:23.453-08:00I love that you had "Carrie." I had seve...I love that you had "Carrie." I had several 'friends' growing up too. Marvel Jewel was the most flamboyant. Fanny Fever was the one I danced frantically all over the living room with. Janet Kirksom was a very distinguished business-like friend. They all helped immensely. I wonder if we were dissociating - if we needed these friends to cope with the harshness of our mothers' disorders.<br />WV=comen. Yep, I'ma comen. <br />last WV, rammitep - my use in a sentence would have been very crude. Yours is more creative.Kasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05233330248952156754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7195616894993495285.post-90988390977382782752009-11-24T17:53:08.455-08:002009-11-24T17:53:08.455-08:00Well, my friend, you hit all kinds of targets with...Well, my friend, you hit all kinds of targets with that! And I had not remembered Beans until mentioned her again just now. Yes, the state of brain surgery at the time was not what it is now. I've always said it in a very crude way: Mostly they just opened his skull and poked around, not really "doing" anything except maybe causing more harm. And then, in 1975, when he was correctly diagnosed, it became clear he never needed any surgeries. No surgery was going to fix his problem (not today's modern surgeries, either). In Gary's youth, my mother was just a good caretaker. It's in his adulthood that she's become a champion warrior advocate, and I'll be writing about that. Yes, I needed more than I got.Leslie Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15702472429383639709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7195616894993495285.post-51308272822910100732009-11-24T17:36:45.444-08:002009-11-24T17:36:45.444-08:00I guess that given the state of medicine in the 50...I guess that given the state of medicine in the 50's the doctors might have done more damage to Gary during surgery than was done during the initial seizure. My friend Beans down in Floriday had Brain surgery in the mid 50's and has had life long difficulty with vision because of it. Today the surgery she had is fairly common and usually succesful. I congratulate your Mother on being a strong advocate on your brother's behalf. Still that was attention that you could of used a bit more of.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00533184345345882921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7195616894993495285.post-9873195508375796602009-11-24T13:37:36.443-08:002009-11-24T13:37:36.443-08:00Well, thank you, Tag. Yes - lonely. And alone. Two...Well, thank you, Tag. Yes - lonely. And alone. Two different things. And I have been accused of having a good heart, still today. Gary's story would be so overwhelming to most feeling people that it WOULD take some time to process.<br /><br />That Matt! And this goes to Kirk's comment about him, as well: he is a young man of extremes. He has more intrinsic gifts than the law allows. And he is the hardest hard case I've ever come across. We have learned in the past 24 hours that his inheritance is gone - spent! And now he has no job. And that hurts.Leslie Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15702472429383639709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7195616894993495285.post-77325364507463561392009-11-24T13:24:01.987-08:002009-11-24T13:24:01.987-08:00I came to like Matt and his bathroom so I was sorr...I came to like Matt and his bathroom so I was sorry to hear about his firing. I'm sure it wasn't an easy decision. <br />I need to process Gary's story a bit more, In you I see a little girl often lonely but with a tremendous heart. Nice work Limes.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00533184345345882921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7195616894993495285.post-37947787110919386672009-11-24T13:18:13.613-08:002009-11-24T13:18:13.613-08:00Hi, Kirk ~ you don't need to feel badly about ...Hi, Kirk ~ you don't need to feel badly about any comment you've ever posted. Surely by now you notice that I can laugh about most everything, even the most painful things. For me, if I can't laugh and can't cry, then I'm in danger of exploding.<br /><br />It is my sincere hope that after I've told everything I need to tell, NO ONE will think I griped about the parents and nothing more. Our story has way too many layers and we all reversed roles all the time, so no writing could be "anything" and nothing more. Sometimes I was the parent. Sometiems I was the co-adult. Sometimes I am able to forgive them when they can't forgive themselves. Sometimes I can't forgive them at all for seemingly slight offenses. But I do not intend to gripe and nothing more. I'm just telling the stories about a small group of those interesting human animals that fascinate me so.<br /><br />Re: 1975 - I actually plan to do one small-ish post about the rest of Gary's life and what has happened during it. He's still alive and will soon turn 53. Part of my story will be about how, in 1975, his illness was finally correctly diagnosed and that diagnosis created yet new angst and pain.Leslie Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15702472429383639709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7195616894993495285.post-82938514375292494692009-11-24T13:00:35.539-08:002009-11-24T13:00:35.539-08:00It was about a difficult subject. I feel a little ...It was about a difficult subject. I feel a little guilty about my "dysfunction happens" comment last week when you first laid the groundwork for for this post, but I assumed you were just going to gripe about the parents and nothing more. Well, you know what Felix Unger said about assuming. Even if it's of little consequence, I hope you'll tell us what you found out in 1975, and whether that still holds true today (I hate to say it as I remember the era so well, but 1975 was a long time ago)<br /><br />Sorry to hear about Matt. Hope he makes something of himself in the animie biz.Kirkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02155991693956178030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7195616894993495285.post-79259498696425893682009-11-24T09:50:39.210-08:002009-11-24T09:50:39.210-08:00Thank you, Kass. You may ask questions if you choo...Thank you, Kass. You may ask questions if you choose. I will answer any questions posed by a reader. After all, I'm writing this because I am pregnant to bursting with it - I HAVE to tell it. And I know that means there may be questions.<br /><br />Nothing published other than this blog. I have written all my life, though. Just letters and written pieces meant for personal interaction. But when the Badger comments "you've always been a good writer", he is drawing on personal information dating back to high school in the 1960s. My daughter has also been writing from an age when she dictated the story and I wrote it because she didn't yet know how to write.<br /><br />OK, WV = rammitep.<br /><br />I'm planning a Thai food buffet for the party. I will serve crab rangoon, shrimp tempura, chicken satay, napa soup, a variety of Napa Valley wines, squid salad and rammitep.Leslie Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15702472429383639709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7195616894993495285.post-35678828632776118542009-11-24T09:37:05.389-08:002009-11-24T09:37:05.389-08:00Beautifully-written post about a difficult subject...Beautifully-written post about a difficult subject! I have many questions, but perhaps they will be answered in following chapters.<br /><br />You are such a wonderful writer, it's difficult to imagine that you haven't formally ever been an author. Have you published anything besides here on your blog?<br />WV= rammitep - I leave this one to you. The obvious is too obvious, right?Kasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05233330248952156754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7195616894993495285.post-53154480613011866902009-11-24T09:20:14.421-08:002009-11-24T09:20:14.421-08:00You're really good at it, too, Kass! No gueli ...You're really good at it, too, Kass! No gueli guel here! By the way, I only recently noticed the WV interactive word play. I didn't notice it when I first began to blog.<br /><br />You may need a hankie for this post. But things will get sunnier in the next chapter.Leslie Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15702472429383639709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7195616894993495285.post-80741079356890102572009-11-24T09:14:02.458-08:002009-11-24T09:14:02.458-08:00Just read your comments on Sug Blog. You give good...Just read your comments on Sug Blog. You give good WV. There should be a whole blog devoted to these quips. Now I'm going to go back and read your latest chapter and then comment. Later...<br /><br />WV=gueli - Gueli, awe you shue you donwanna be one-a those gueli guels?Kasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05233330248952156754noreply@blogger.com